Sunday, December 05, 2004
I've noticed an increase in this phenomenon recently-winking. It is really starting to irritate me, and I actually pause for thought for a moment everytime someone winks. What does he actually mean? Is it just a form of greeting? Is it a social habit? Or is it just playful flirtation? It actually takes a conscious effort to wink, so that means he is sending a subconscious signal, but what is this signal exactly? Not everyone actually pulls off a wink, some ppl actually look like they are having an epileptic fit. Sometimes it just sends a shiver down my spine, "creep" I think to myself. Other times, "oh my!" it must be my lucky day.
To me I see it as a symbol of over-confidence, sometimes it is flattering, other times it is demeaning. But most of the time I can't figure out what is going through the person's head. In my small sub-sample, the guys that do it are your archetypal casanova's. Good-looking, well-off, flirtatious, and if they see that you are quite shy, they start playing on your coyness by using such insinuations, winking, whispering in your ear when no one is looking, and thinking that you'll fall for it.
A woman winking, now that is UNNERVING. Only Ann Robinson in the Weakest Link can pull that one off.